Something similar happened to my parents - they tried for four years, adopted me, then went on to have 2 children of their own. I was always the odd person out. Everything I did was criticized or ignored. They worked hard to present the picture of the perfect family to outsiders, but even as a small child I knew something with me was different, even before being told I was adopted at age six. I could never measure up to their own kids, and when I did outperform them in grades or whatever, I was accused of doing so to make my brothers feel bad.
It's horrible to grow up knowing your parents regret adopting you, and that they prefer their own genetic children over you. Please be careful not to treat your adopted child this way. Please also read "The Primal Wound" by Nancy Verrier so that you can understand the differences in bonding you may experience between both of your children, rather than blaming the adopted child for not "fitting in".
drunkbunny: I'm sorry for the way you were treated, but look forward to the future. no1 wil hold you to doing something better than anybody else. every man / woman for him / her self.
moniqueass: Many many congratulations! God works in mysterious ways :)
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