What makes you think?
Today's Thought-Provoking Life Stories

Submit your story


Your nickname :
Categories :
Gender? :

Today, when one of the popular kids called one of my best students a loser, she turned around, looked at the bully square in the face and said, “Why? Because I'd rather read a book on weekends than go to parties and puke with you. Because I'd rather have one meaningful conversation a day than send hundreds of meaningless texts to 40 people I barely know. Or because I'd rather wait until I'm 30 than give it up to someone around here who’s silly enough to think an arrogant ass like you is cool.” MMT

#14539 (63) - Jun 12, 2011 by YouGoGirl - Inspiring - Yes, that made me think too! (5217) - No, that made me sleepy. (279)


Comments

 

LOL That was awesome. I would have loved to see the looks on the bullys face, as it was probably priceless.

That sounds terribly judgmental. I can't stand this girls attitude and slut shaming. That's a terrible response, really.

really, Oh bullshit it is about TIME bullys get stood up too. I applaud this girl for standing up to him/her and doing what they did. With your reply, it sounded as if you were a bully yourself at one time.

Are you serious, thunt0331? This is not a disney movie. Bullies are not emotionless robots who only know how to hurt people. "Or because I'd rather wait until I'm 30 than give it up to someone around here whoâ

So it's okay that the bully can call her names but she can't call him on the way he makes fun of her? Yea that makes so much sense. I think she did the right thing. If the bully doesn't act like a little hoe, then she shouldn't be hurt. But most of the time, the "Popular" kids are all out having sex like rabbits, drinking like alcoholics, or doing drugs like its nobody's business.

whoo hoo! way to go!

I love this post. Since I'm in high school I know what the popular girls are like and how some of them think they are so much better then the other girls. This girl is amazing to have the ability to speak up against that bully and I wouldn't be surprised if everything he called her out on is totally true. Youuu gooo girl!!!!

Nice job! That kid's gonna be a success someday! :)

Life happens in the grey areas...

Fact of the matter is, Being bullied and returning in kind isn't necessarily the best way to go about it.. But what is the alternative? Getting a Teacher? Telling the parents? At the very least those options would increase the amount of bullying on the person. What she said was exactly what needed to be said to handle the situation in a way so as to keep it from escalating. When dealing with a person who is mean enough to bully people they perceive to be weaker or lower than them, you need to be equally mean, and deal a blow quickly. What she did was commendable.

Hmmm..... Your life experiences consist of what useful knowledge, exactly? At least I've learned courage and bravery and self-appreciation instead of having a constant cycle of self-doubt. And things that never actually happened... Harry Potter and Narnia might be fiction, but you believe that the Holocaust didn't happen, than? At least I'll pass history... and English... and, well, everything else.... And as for wishing I had more friends... well, I have friends, thanks, and they're all pretty amazing. I don't really wish I had more friends, because then I wouldn't have the awesome and MEANINGFUL friendships that I have now. My reply to #13.

Seriously, thunt? Bullies are "emotionless robots".....? Tell that to the girl who bullied me relentlessly for 2 years before she committed suicide when she was 13 years old. Bullies are NOT emotionless. Not saying that we should just let them do what they want... Far from it. But don't assume they're not human.

I think her response was brilliant. Some of you are saying it was rude, which it may be, but we also don't know the whole situation and the bully probably deserved it.

I would love to meet this girl! She seems really cool!

Loser is kinda innocent next the huge assumptions the nerdy girl made

I'm absolutely shocked at the amount of people who call this student "rude" and presumptuous. I recently graduated from high school and have seen firsthand just how cruel the "popular" kids can be (especially nowadays). That's not to say that all of them are up on their pedestals, noses in the air; there are some good ones. As a rule, however, this student described these kids' actions perfectly. Nobody thinks they're "emotionless robots" (we can appreciate the fact we're not living in a movie), but they have no right to look down on those who choose to take the higher road in life. Why are we labeled "losers" because we happen to have a little more self-respect? Although rhetorical, this student has some very valid questions. The people that object to his/her response need to take a step back and think about the questions this student asked.

suzieq - "but they have no right to look down on those who choose to take the higher road in life." what is that supposed to mean? if your against judging ppl then you have no right to decide whether the party kid lifestyle is bad and "the lower road" and the nerdy kid is all "good" and righteous. in the end nothing can be decided with some sort of "morality". the only thing that can and does justify either lifestyle (popular kid/good student) is the person living it out. but as we can see, both sides had visible insecurities. if they did not have doubts about their lifestyle choice's legitimacy they would not feel the need to bully and judge. live the way you want but do it the right way

I believe that this girl is standing up for herself and her style of life. She is comfortable with being intellectual and maybe a bit more introverted, so what? And for those of you saying "poor bully" and "she is being so judgemental" and "the popular girl is just living life to the fullest", stop and think for just one second. These people are in HIGH SCHOOL, they are too full of hormones to make any intelligent decisions and running around drinking and having sex won't exactly help them in the future. I agree that people should live their own lives, but high school is too young to burn yourself out and make decisions that you could regret for the rest of your life.

yeah....your friend sounds like a jealous virgin. question: have either of you ever tried something outside of your comfort zone? you think that this "popular" kid is judging you, but you are most evidently judging them. not everyone who drinks is an alcoholic, not everyone who has sex is a slut. i do both and have never gotten a grade lower than a B, even in college. you ARE shaming them because you don't understand anything about that person. perhaps that person isn't as smart as you because they have a learning disability. ever thought that maybe that popular kid has family problems or insecurities that they try to remedy with alcohol and sex? maybe it's not your method of choice, but it also isn't your life. the truth is you don't know anything about that person, just like they don't know anything about you. so instead of getting all high and mighty, how about you learn something from all this reading you supposably do, and stop judging books by their covers. and as for the fact that this person calls your friend names, well that i can understand you being upset over, but heres the thing: karma's only a b*tch if you are. that popular kid will surely have to pay, but if you're an a-hole, then so will you.

did anyone consider that maybe this good student was just having a day and the comment from the popular girl was the last straw? or maybe she has been bullied before and finally decided to say something about it? we don't know these girls' backgrounds, so it's hard to make up excuses for either one, however, I think it's funny that half the comments are defending the popular girl when she incited this argument to begin with. and, while they might not pertain to the popular girl in particular, she did make some pretty good points about the behavior of SOME teenagers. and to genericname, teenagers aren't ruled by their hormones, they're not animals and are in fact capable of making good decisions. the good student from this story is one example. besides, haven't there been times when you didn't stand up for yourself and looked back wishing you had?

did anyone consider that maybe this good student was just having a day and the comment from the popular girl was the last straw? or maybe she has been bullied before and finally decided to say something about it? we don't know these girls' backgrounds, so it's hard to make up excuses for either one, however, I think it's funny that half the comments are defending the popular girl when she incited this argument to begin with. and, while they might not pertain to the popular girl in particular, she did make some pretty good points about the behavior of SOME teenagers. and to genericname, teenagers aren't ruled by their hormones, they're not animals and are in fact capable of making good decisions. the good student from this story is one example. besides, haven't there been times when you didn't stand up for yourself and looked back wishing you had?

09, my senior year. graduated with a 4.0, went to school high and hungover. had sex with anything i could. If i had to choose between a deeply stimulating conversation and sex with some girl, id take the conversation 5 times out of ten. I was the field commander of a marching band that took straight I's at state, theater for years and i couldn't find anything better to do after than to get hammered with those 'bullies'. Living on both sides of the line. I was the intellectual bully, the sexy nerd, the stimulated pot head, the alcoholic field commander. The funny thing is that you all still seem to think that the bully and the nerd are any different. Tarquin said it, life is lived in the gray areas. I hung out with 'nerds' who were more vicious than that bitch that seemed to run the school. grow out or high school people. You can't seriously still harbor these fears. As for the girl? good for her, but she missed the mark just as much as the 'bully'. Genericname- "I agree that people should live their own lives, but high school is too young to burn yourself out and make decisions that you could regret for the rest of your life." sadly for many of these people, high school is the only highly social time of their lives. Which does not sound like much to an introvert (who are beautiful people), but knowing that you won't go to college pushes these kids to try more earlier. some one mentioned it above, but remember that the bullies came from somewhere, pain perpetuates.

both of these girls should have what i like to call the (don't take crap from anyone) attitude. iv learned early in life no matter how u perceive someones life. how easy u think they might have it everyone has their issue and you should never judge someone on their life or how they live it. i think we can all agree that the popular girl should of never have called the other girl a loser. and for the girl to go off on the bully like that wasn't good ether.

"Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you."

"An eye for an eye will only make the whole world blind."

Not if people we're douche bags

I don't see how its possible to bicker back in forth about this particular post. Being a recent graduate myself i find it to be a wonderful thing that this "popular" child was told off. Think about this, the popular girl not only instigated the situation, but think about her reasoning. Yes lets all travel back to high school, popular kids/bullies gained their pedestal by making other kids feel lousy about themselves and everyone pretended to be on their good side so they did not fall victim to the same cruelty. Everything the student said in rebuttal was probably true, everyone knows what goes on with the popular kid because they are quick to brag as soon as its happened. Standing up for the popular child is like saying the jews should have walked into the concentration camps willingly because if they fought it would hurt Hitler's feelings. Here is a quote for all you big time philosophers "Let one person walk on you, and soon you shall become a rug". I would love to see what each and everyone of you would have done if you found yourselves in this position. If someone called you a loser, 9 times out of 10 your first thought wouldn't be; Gosh this girl must have a hard home life or maybe she just found out she is preggers and needs to take it out on someone else. Your thought would probably be, damn your an ass, regardless of whether or not you stand up for yourself. Walk away or stand and fight, but promoting bullying is never right!

I would've decked that popular chick in the face. No feelings hurt there.

Don't dish it out if you can't take it. If you are going to put yourself out there especially to harass another person you d@*n well better be prepared for a backlash. I am sure that was not the end of the bullying, but no matter what the popular kid is going through that makes some of you want to coddle them there is no reason the other kids should have to serve as a " whipping boy" . Just like some of you think that the popular kid is getting out there pain through bullying the other kid was getting out theirs, and they have every right to do that. Just the same as those of you think the bully has the right.

the sad part is.. all of you who call other people the "popular kids" are pretty much calling yourselves losers because your admitted to their popularity and you've admitted to defeat saying that they truly are cooler then you in what ever way, shape, or form.

I'm confused. What exactly did this girl do wrong? We don't know the context or demeanor in which she delivered HER message, but we do know that this "bully" was, in fact, true to form, calling her a name, a demeaning one. That is the definition of a bully and she as the right, as a human being, to confront this bully ( as long as it is done appropriately and within the law). I did not see where she was at his "level" at all. She didn't call him a name; she had an opinion and she stated, bluntly, without resorting to verbal intimidation or aggression. As a professional therapist, I applaud her and believe, based on the above, that it was completely appropriate.

Most of the people here sound like losers :) you people are biased! mmt

Lmao, you guys think what she said was "rude"? You are so innocent.

You know being a victim of being bullied, It is hard to open my mouth and call out what is bothering me. I think people don't realize that when you get bullied ever you went to daycare before preschool, and even now going into my senior year of highschool, it kills me to think that people do not seem to realize how much guts it takes to do that or even how long she had been picked on about that for her to stand up for herself. In our world it is always about one side of the argument. never both. I still have yet to speak up for myself. It is hard being emotionally thrown down and kicked around, and how hard it is to even trust anyone. I usually dont comment on these, but I mean, really people, this is just the tip of the iceberg for people who get bullied all the time. I've never been able to stand up for myself because whenever I try, I get knocked down again, and its people like Really who actually make things worse. if it was a disney movie, there would be no issue with bullying. it is a reality and Really, I dont think you know how much damage your comment did to me. It really is a shame.

Every kid should tape this inside their locker at school, and never forget it... â

Every kid should tape this inside their locker at school, and never forget it...â

the girl by calling her a loser which made her burst out into this... if the girl always had that kind of attitude she wouldnt be unpopular, an as far as what she said thats good an all but what memories is she going to have from high school every weekend i looked at as a possibility to make life long memories with my friends an i have more then most people make in a there whole lifes, whats she going to leave highschool with... some good grades she could have got anyways if she was out having fun, hopefully she will get forced out of her comfort zone by these so called bullies an start having some fun

If you dont like how the girl reacted, because you feel she had the mind set of him being an "emtionless robot" maybe you should take a look at the girls point of view. she finally said something! and if the bully doesn't want the reputation, he shouldn't have done those things, or act like it! i'm in highschool and yes people are cruel, but sometimes they need to act the way they want to be percieved!

The thing is, that the bully shouldn't have been bullying, and she did the right thing, no matter what kind of person the other is, they will never know each others lives. So its no use for either one to make life for the other unpleasant. Its just stupid. You do you and I do me, there is no reason for them to be in each others business, the bully deserved it.

Okay or maybe it's just high school kids who are all equally affected by hormones and social pressures saying stupid things to each other. Honestly people, lighten up. The boy will grow out of being a bully and the girl will grow out of being a smart-ass. I will bet you that they are equally successful later in life and will look back at experiences and BOTH think how immature they were. You are all reading so deep into this! Not that I'm saying that there are situations that lead to real problems, but these two teens obviously have enough self confidence to speak their minds, so I wouldn't worry about either of them.

30 is a bit long ..

After reading many of your comments I have a few things I like to add. Not sure about a lot of you but I knew everyone in my school and I knew who partied, got drunk, got high, etc. In this case I wouldn't be surprised if the two kids knew each other and their habits. So I'm guessing that what she said to the bully about what they do was probably true. So I personally believe she did the right thing. Kids are always taught to stand up to bullies and that is what happened stop bashing her for it. blong, I'd like to say to you congrats to all of your achievements in high school, truly amazing. Except for the fact that you took YEARS off of your life by being an alcoholic, high, etc. teenager. So how did your 4.0 do in college? streeett, I am calling this bully a "popular" kid because that is what post called her, this is not because I am a loser. You must have been one of "popular" kids, the thing is you sound like an idiot for judging us who are labeling the bully in this post and those like them "popular" because you just sound as bad as them. After this post I believe blong and streeett will think I'm judging when in fact I just used their posts to underscore their bias attitudes towards the poor "popular" kid who got what she deserved.

She stood up for herself. That's the bottome line. She retaliated, yeah, but maybe she about had enough of being pushed around. Everyone judges, its a fact of life. Get over yourselves and just respect the fact that she did what she thought was right for HER. Christ.

@ armytimes "...but what memories is she going to have from high school every weekend i looked at as a possibility to make life long memories with my friends an i have more then most people make in a there whole lifes, whats she going to leave highschool with... some good grades she could have got anyways if she was out having fun, hopefully she will get forced out of her comfort zone by these so called bullies an start having some fun" So you think that the only way to make good memories is to go to parties. Well From my experience that is totally incorrect, some of my best memories are of the gaming sessions or discussions with friends about various topics. Maybe you should think before you type.

What are you people arguing over? I mean, really. just think about it: some girl is insulted, she insults back. We have no data on whether or not either one was in the right (though from the vehemence of the nonbully's reaction, we can theorize that she definitely had something on her mind that made her snap... either that or she's just a bitch.) Besides that, doesn't everybody have anything better to do than argue about the degrees of morality in high school snits? * a cookie to whoever can get the right retort to this comment *

. For example when looking at a good cardigan with a sales, first look around the different kinds of textiles who are put into use as soon as developing any shirt. Plenty of textiles you should not preserve all the skier through standard water. Various fabrics make it happen, but are not just for definitely chilly temperature ranges. One other serious a part to pay attention to stands out as the model of snow sweatshirt it can be. Some types aren't designed for harsh things, and certain will keep you snug if your not likely around nasty things

I think some of these comments are ridiculous to be completely honest. As a bystander, one would typically applaud a child being bullied when they finally pluck up the courage to stand up to a bully. However, no one person can judge either side, it is not our place to determine that the child being bullied is infinitely good or that the child bullying is infinitely bad. Yet if approached with violence, whether it is verbal or physical, i wouldn't suggest allowing it to happen and so i applaud any person being bullied for standing up for themselves. Yet in this instance, this child being bullied reverses the role and picks up on insecurities of the bully and uses them against them. Some might say the bullied has become the bully. The amount of abuse returned is not down to the amount of courage one has, but the amount of respect they have for themselves and others around them. In reply to one of the comments on 'taking the high road' i don't agree that the bullied child's life choice is taking the high road, because who is anyone to say which lifestyle is more acceptable, yet i do believe the bullied child could have taken the 'high road' by retaliating in a more respectful manner. Either way, they're both bullies, whether done once in a lifetime, or every day, abusing someone else is bullying and i don't applaud either of them!

this post was a long time ago .. still would just like to point out that the girl who respponded to the bully AT NO TIME said 'you'. She was comparing her actions to ones she has dislike for, but she did not accuse the bully of doing any of these things. If the bully saw herself in the description - well so be it, but there was no accusation. And that is what makes it cool :)

..apart from 'puke with you'. missed that! :)

Moncler Moncler outlet Moncler discountMoncler Coats Cheap MonclerMoncler Angers Belted Down Jacket in Dark Blue MC30010 Moncler ARCS Down Jacket in Black MC10001Moncler Classic Quincy Purple Puffer Down Jacket MC30047Moncler Himalaya Down Jacket in Gray MC14045Moncler Womens Gaelle Fully Lined Vest in Blue MC40004

cool~~~i used to be one of the top students when some always called me a nerd or a geek. They thought thier lifestyle was exciting and mine dull. I used to dislike me a little but now am proud of my hard work.

christian louboutin outletlouboutin outletchristian louboutin salelouboutin salelouboutin replicalouboutin bootschristian louboutin bridalchristian louboutin bridalchristian louboutin mens shoeschristian louboutin pumps

A. Lange & Sohne watches Replica A. Lange & Sohne watches fake A. Lange & Sohne watches copy A. Lange & Sohne watches cheap A. Lange & Sohne watches

Replica Montblanc WatchesFake WatchesReplica Movado WatchesReplica Panerai WatchesReplica WatchesReplica Ferrari Rattrapante WatchesReplica Breitling Navitimer Watchesdiscount Longines Master Collection Watchesfake Franck Muller WatchesReplica FlightDeck 50mm Tourbillon Watches

Bridal dressWedding Dressesprom dressesmother of the bride gownsflower girl dressdiscount Short Wedding DressesShort Wedding Dresses saleCelebrity DressDiscount Quinceanera DressesSheath/Column Wedding Dresses

A. Lange & Sohne watchesReplica A. Lange & Sohne watchesfake A. Lange & Sohne watchescopy A. Lange & Sohne watchescheap A. Lange & Sohne watchesdiscount rolex watchescheap christian dior watchesfake Porsche Design WatchesCartier watchescheap Chronoswiss Watches

North Face JacketsNorth Face outletNorth Face FleeceNorth face coatsNorth Face BackpacksNorth Face 2 in 1 Jackets saleNorthface RealizationNorth Face Glovesnorth face vestNorth Face Denali Jacket

cheap bag salecheap bagdiscount handbagwholesale handbaghandbag onlineCoach Coin Purses onlineCoach OutletGucci Mens HandbagLV HandbagCoach Shoulder Bags online

Armani Watches Replica Armani Watches fake Armani Watches cheap Armani Watches discount Armani Watches

tiffany blue tiffany necklace tiffany and company necklace tiffany and co necklaces tiffany necklace online . Typically the observer smirks plus chuckles, being familiar with well this, not too long ago, for ones goal attainable, two thighs and an already-established pair of Nikes were the only thing that was recommended. But, the talent of managing seems any forgotten trade, not for the arbitrary observer, particularly the health public typically.For the actual mainstream crowd hoping to foil the flab (and potentially partake while in the social aspects), an outdoor, honest jog via the park loses out towards a sweat-session to the stairs any specific corporate day on the week. But still, one inescapable fact remains, an identical fact who has survived both tests of your time and that endless story of technological know-how

tiffany necklaceCheap tiffany necklacetiffany jewelry salecheapest tiffany braceletstiffany charm braceletsDesigner tiffany earringsLinks of London CharmsFashion Tiffany RingsTiffany SetsCheap Tiffany Charms

Bullies are not "Emotionless robots" they're human beings who don't know how to cope with life and therefore make it shitty for other people. Sure, bullies have their own issues. But guess what? So do the kids they're bullying. And you don't see /them/ bullying. In my not-so-humble opinion, parents need to step up and take responsibility for their children. Teach them coping skills. Show them how wrong bullying is. It's like when parents blame the teachers for their idiot kids when their idiot kids aren't paying attention in the first place.

tiffany jewelry outlet tiffany outlet tiffany jewelry outlet New Arrivals : Tiffany and co outlet, Tiffany jewelry outlet, Tiffany and Co On Sale, cheap tiffany and co with 70% OFF and Free Shipping, Tiffany And Co Outlet #sddm { margin: 0 auto; padding: 0; z-index: 30; background-color:#F4F4F4; width: 80px; height:23px; float: right; margin-right: 70px;} #sddm li { margin: 0; padding: 0; list-style: none; float: left; font: bold 12px arial} #sddm li a { display: block; margin: 0 1px 0 0; padding: 4px 10px; width: 60px; background: #EAEAE8; color: #666; text-align: center; text-decoration: none} #sddm li a:hover { background: #49A3FF} #sddm div { position: absolute; visibility: hidden; margin: 0; padding: 0; background: #EAEBD8; border: 1px solid #5970B2} #sddm div a { position: relative; display: block; margin: 0; padding: 5px 10px; width: auto; white-space: nowrap; text-align: left; text-decoration: none; background: #EAEBD8; color: #2875DE; font: 12px arial} #sddm div a:hover { background: #49A3FF; color: #FFF} Language Deutsch Français Italiano Español Português æ

Add a comment

 

You must be a member to comment.

Sign Up Now! It's Free!

Your account
Username Password