I sincerely hope that this is a true and accurate analysis of your relationship. I pray for the best for you and your life. I find myself bitter sometimes. These same statements that show both hope in the future and confidence in yourself, are the lies she has told her family, friends, and herself to justify her own misdeeds. I loved her despite her faults, and love her still no matter how much my reputation may have been tarnished in the process. I will endeavor to show Christ like love to her every opportunity that is given. This trial has forced me to grow more as a man than practically all other life experiences, and I pray salvation may someday find her and lift her up out of the muck and mire. Peace be with you always, you MMT.
This February I got myself out of a three year relationship that was anything but healthy. He didn't show any of the signs of an abusive boyfriend so I thought I was safe, but I was wrong. In that relationship I lost myself. When I finally got the courage to leave him, he wasn't ready to leave me. He caused me misery for months and months until I had to go to the police and serve him a restraining order. (Even finding a new phone number, twice) I'm glad I got out of that situation, and I'm glad you did too. My friends and family helped to lift me out of my despair, and yours did too. Always remember, you are never alone.
When a relationship becomes all about him and you lose sight of yourself is a red alert! We as women need to value and honor ourselves and not believe we are lovable just because we are in a relationship! We somehow always rationalize his disrespectful nature and blame ourself! We need to find courage to move on and empower ourselves as single women with a huge mission in our lives! Give yourself a big hug and honor yourself! You have many victories ahead of you! You learned a huge lesson of loving yourself and no one person can do that for you, but YOU!! There will be another boyfriend but remember to teach them how to treat you! Be Respectful of yourself And remind yourself of your power as a women and human being!:) Marriage then gives the abuser more security in his covert behaviors to treat you disrespectfully and when a child is on the way the women fills fear of raising a child on her own! Women need to take control of the lies and stand alone and raise the baby alone if its not working! God has a plan and a baby is never a mistake but might be the joy one is seeking without knowing until the new chapter in her life will begin! Stay in the light and many blessing sent your way for a healthy You! be kind to yourself and stay away from a repeat offender! Stay AWAKE! God bless! Work on your self esteem through books or classes and you will be stronger in the next relationship!:)
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