Today, the main girl who bullied me in high school came into my office apologizing and pleading for a job. I'm still thinking about it. MMT

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give her the job..but then make her professional life miserable. its ur only chanceto get back at her.. u can either show her that she really affected u by not givng her the job..u can either give the job and be all forgiving, or u cud just be evil, by giving d job, nd den being evil...if i were u, id probably do d last thing..

Congratulations. I can't make this decision for you but I'd consider two things: 1) Do you think she's legitimately sorry? Does she regret how she behaved because it was wrong, or because she needs you now? 2) If you could ask yourself from high school what to do here, how would the younger you respond?

Oh, give her the job! It may be hard, but have the satisfaction in knowing you're the better person. If she were in your position, would she give you the job? Probably not. But that makes it all the better to give it to her. It makes both of you happy, and you can sit back and think, 'Oh, yes. She works for me. She came to plead for a job... haha!! Oh, oh, oh, yes.' That's what I'd do.

If she hasn't convinced you yet, I would definitely NOT give her the job. This isn't about how good you are, or making yourself feel better - it's about whether she's changed and whether you believe she has changed enough to not poison your workplace. And that is not likely, from the sound of it - I can't imagine why she'd go to *you* other than as an attempt to prey on your sensitivity (as in, she might be expecting you to think along the lines of Kawaii-Kiwi's comment).

If she's qualified give her the job. She was never right to bully uou and I'm sorry you had to go through that, but you've been given the opportunity to be the better person. Take it. If you deny her a job she's qualified for because of your personal feelings, not only are you stopping to her level, but you're giving her a reason to be hateful and mean

Like many have already stated, is she genuinely sorry? If she is, then hell everyone deserves a second chance. Mistakes are only naturally. I'm sure you'll make the right decision.

She's not sorry she bullied you, she's sorry you're in a position of authority over her. Give someone else the job, someone who hasn't already proven they can be cruel for enjoyment.

Give someone else a first chance, rather than her a second. Someone else might need the job more.

How about... Is she qualified for the job? 9_9 Life isn't always about revenge or forgiveness.

The amount of animosity on this board is really, really sad. I too was bullied to the point I'd go home and cry every night during school, however, if I knew one of the guys was in desperate need for work I'd still help them. Granted, I'd probably go through the same thing as you are, but, to treat her awfully in the workplace for past events would make you the bully and her a victim in turn. I'm certainly not saying forgive and forget, but, just remember she's still a person.

I just realized that it does depend on how much communication is needed in the job. I was presuming it was some sort of white-collar job that relies on communication between employees or with customers, but if it's a more blue-collar job, whether or not she's changed doesn't matter as much. The more important factors there are whether you're just comfortable with having her work for you (and whether she qualifies over other applicants, yes).

I think you should make the decision to give her the job on whether she is qualified. Employment should not be based on personal issues you have with her. Just as it would be wrong to hire your best friend if she was unqualified, it is not right to turn away this woman if she IS qualified. If you hire her, do not make or life miserable or give her special treatment. Treat her like an employee.

Everyone deserves a second chance. You'll be the bigger person by forgiving her and suggesting you start over. If you fight fire with fire, you'll just get burned.

All I say is, just don't stoop down to her level. If you want to hire someone else, then do it because they're qualified. Don't do it to "get back to her."

I say just treat her like a random person you've never met before...judge everything based on their skills, experience, etc, like you would a normal person. I would be too guilty to just fire them because they were messed up to me...why sink down to their level?

I would not give her the job. It just shows you can be mean in high school and it doesn't matter because your tormented victim is expected to take the high road. I dislike the message that sends. I lived "Be nice to everyone because you never know what importance they may have to you later." It's like when you stay up all night to finish an assignment and the teacher extends the deadline because a lot of people didn't finish. Do it right the first time and you won't need to beg anyone for a second chance.

Man up and don't hire her. You being bullied was your fault anyway, you didn't have the guts to stand up for your self, in nature that would mean you'd die. In current society, pussies live on , stopping further progress as a species.

This has nothing to do with high school. Your in a position or authority right now and you have to be professional. If shes qualified, give her the job. If shes not, tell her why she didnt get it.

So I read the first few comments. The first person (who has terrible grammar I might add) was saying "hire her but make her life miserable" That's a terrible idea. Don't stoop to her level. Really... Put your past behind you. If she'll benefit the company then hire her, if not then don't. It's that simple.

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