Since she is still very young, if she asks again just say her father was a bad man and too dangerous for her to be around. When she is older and more mature e.g. fourteen or older, you should tell her the truth. If I am completely honest, telling her that you were raped shouldn't have been an option at this point because she is three and wouldn't even understand what rape is.
You say that there are all kinds of families, some have a mommy and a daddy, some have just a mommy, some have just a daddy, and some have grandmas and grandpas, and that is OK. And that's 100% true. Save the rest of the story for later.
Just say god did it. Username relevant.
#3; you are assuming that the mother is a Christian, or religious at all. Even if she is religious or follows Christianity it is presumptuous and possibly very hurtful to tell a rape victim that it was all 'from god'. While you may personally feel that if it was your own life, to tell that to another woman can be hurtful.
OP, telling your daughter that her father is 'dangerous' may only end up scaring her and questioning things further. It may be easiest and most comfortable for you to say that all families are different and some children only live with one parent. A time will likely come when she's still too young to fully understand what rape is but old enough to be completely aware her father is absent, and will begin to question again. When this happens it may be a better time to say that "Your father is not a good person" and leave it at that until a time you feel she's old enough to really handle and comprehend what rape means and that you will always love her dearly.
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