When I was 18 my father cheated on my mother. He eventually broke up with her and is living with the other woman. Originally I hated him for hurting my mother, but when I really thought about it...he was unhappy. Your situation is probably different, but my father was so unhappy in the relationship with my mother. Maybe my family is broken now, but my mother is getting better and moving on and my dad seems happy too. Remember that people cheat for a reason. It doesn't mean your father didn't hurt your mother, but maybe he was hurting for a long time himself, just maybe.
#1 - by Silene
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I found out my father was cheating on my mother when I was 14. For a long time, I was very angry with my dad. I'm 24 now. It's taken a long time to fully realize that my parents are people too. Parents make mistakes and feel the same things that you do. It's hard to see your own parents this way. It doesn't excuse the act of cheating, but he was probably unhappy and hurting, just as Silene mentions. You should talk to your dad. He loves you, even if he isn't in love with your mother anymore, and you still love him. He needs to know that. I know you and your mother is hurting right now, but just call him. Even if you call him to say that you need more time to work through your feelings, it is okay to tell him you love him and are thinking of him. Life is short.
#2 - by Lacey
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My younger brother does the same thing. Our father left us when we were young kids, after having an affair and stealing money from his job only to pay for his new "flings" nice things. I also refuse to speak with my father, its been 7 years. However, he has never made an attempt to contact me either. I feel your pain.
#3 - by cruzantropical
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