Today, when I told them the truth, my parents stopped loving me for being me. MMT

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hang in there. family always comes around. it may be a while, but they do love you.

telling your parents was incredibly brave. to iterate a current and 100% true meme--it gets better.

You are loved. You are strong, and brave, and wonderful. And you deserve to be who you are no matter what. You're never alone. (:

Everything will be okay. It's important to be true to yourself and others. You are amazing, and I am truly so happy that you are true to yourself. I know that sounds weird, but there is no way that the world is going to become more accepting and loving without strong people like yourself knowing who you are. You are beautiful, and your family should realize that. If they don't, it will be their greatest loss. I am so sorry you are going through a rough time, but know you are not in the wrong. Peace and love.

They may just be in shock. They may turn around in time. But the important thing is that you know who you are.

As a parent, I wanted to say quite a bit. If you have time please feel free to read my thoughts here: http://dawnlovitt.wordpress.com/2010/10/27/makes-me-think/

You didn't murder someone did you?

Know that there are so many who support you and have your back. I am sorry that there are people who are not accepting; hopefully they will come to see what a gift you are. But now that you have told them you are free, you can be who you truly are without hiding! If it helps please watch this: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sCfKCEPd2uo It get's better.

My best friend is going through exactly what your going through. His parents don't love him for him and whenever he's around them he has to pretend he's something he's not. He's been passed back and forth between them, shoved off to other relatives, no one wanting to deal with him and his "abnormalities" and over time he's hardened. Become rebellious. He acts loudly, redicuously, and makes an effort to be pushy and mean almost sometime. But if you sit him down and talk with him he's a beautiful person. Wonderful, amazing, and probably one of the sweetest and most concerned and motivated people I will ever meet. I've watched him try to find parental figurage in my own parents. He calls them "momi" and "dadi" and "gramma". Whenever he gets the chance he lives with me more than he lives at home. Why? Because he hates going home. Basically, what that was all about, was me trying to say that even if your parents don't get you, appreciate you for your beauty and perfection the way you are, then don't be put off by them. Love them anyways but don't let them be the generallization for all parents. Some actually do love and accept unconditionally, regardless, boundaries you shove up. And I just want to put out there that I agree with younevercantellwithbees. The It's Gets Better video is a great one. It's well thoguht out, deep, and I think it addresses the issue quite well. And just remember, people aren't as transparent as they seem. I think your parents do love you, even if they pretend they don't. Because I know that through it all, my best friend's dad would do anything it took to save him. He loves him, even if he has a really, really hard time showing it. You just have to have another person look at it sometimes to see it.

It gets so much better!! Hang in there!!!

Hang in there. You will meet people who do love you for being yourself in the most unexpected places. I met my best friend on an online forum 2 years ago. He came out to me about being a transgender (Born a biological female, but feels like a male) He came out to his family a bit over a half a year ago, and they do not accept him. His mother tells him that she hates him and that he is the reason for her unhappiness. His stepfather constantly calls him a freak and his grandparents tell him he is fucked up in the head. His father and stepmother say they accept him but they are constantly trying to change him, to make him "normal" He has told me that he has though about suicide multiple times and I asked him why he hasn't and he told me "Because I have the most beautiful, loving, and understanding girlfriend that i could never leave behind." We have been dating for over a year, and never in my life have I met a stronger and more beautiful individual. He is the best boyfriend I have ever had. :)

This is truly my deepest fear. I love my family, and I'd do anything for them. I'm afraid that once I tell them the truth I wont be able to be around them like I am now. But I admire your courage. Though it's sad to hear you lost your connection with your family. Being able to be your true self is a great inspiration.

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