The bruises won't "validate" the abuse anymore than what he has already done will...abuse is abuse no matter what form and no matter whether the scars are visible or not. Try not to let him get to you, and remember, you are loved and beautiful! =)
Oh how I know the feeling. The only thing you can do, is try to be strong, and get out of that marriage as soon as humanly possible. It doesn't matter if friends and family understand or not, they haven't seen what's behind the mask, you have. Nobody deserves to have to live in fear. There are support groups that can help, and I recommend that you seek their assistance, because this is hard to get through on your own. But I think you'll find that once you've reached out, there are a lot of people willing to help you. It may not be your family or friends, because sometimes they can't see the forest for the trees, but they'll see the difference in you, once you're free, and then they might begin to understand. Good luck in finding your freedom, and a happy life when this is over.
They won't believe you, or understand, & when his next girlfriend goes through the same treatment, she'll still deny it happened to you first.
I've been there and am sorry you are there too. What helped me, after I walked out, was reading the book "Why Does He Do That - Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men". It gave me the validation I needed to understand that what I experienced was not just in my head, as he kept
telling me it was. If your situation was like mine, the abuser has a public face and a very different private face. But it is real even if family and friends cant see it. This book will help you understand that. It takes a lot of courage to walk away from that sort of relationship. You need to be strong and overcome the fear because life on the other side is so much better. Best of luck!
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