Today, after having a pretty rough day, I was sitting all alone crying at a coffee shop in downtown Los Angeles. There were people all around me. But not a single person said anything to me. MMT

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Well... One time a couple of years ago. I saw someone crying in the common area at school. I went to go see if she was okay. She screamed, at the top of her lungs for me to leave her alone and that it was absolutely none of my business.... Which, I guess, she was right. But because of her I'm too afraid to talk to people who are visibly upset. Perhaps the people you encountered that day felt the same way?

I wouldn't go up to some random person if they're crying and ask them what's wrong, and I know plenty of people who wouldn't, either. When I'm crying, I want to be left alone. It seems to me that you were looking for attention by your crying.

I'm always surprised by the hate in the comments in what should be a friendly place. You wanted attention by crying?? So what? Why wouldn't a person who is sad want someone, anyone, to show them love and kindness and a reason for their mood to lift? Why would no one do that? Even the people who tell you to go away appreciate that you asked. It's like you're a kid and you run up to your room and pout and your mom comes after her and you tell her to go away. you'd much rather she come, even if you tell her to leave, then for her to not come to you at all and leave you be. We all need that sometimes, we're human! I hope you have better days soon!

Why you're crying is none of my business. It's awkward to see someone else making a public display of a strong negative emotion, & it can be triggering to others.

Sometimes crying is not about wanting attention! It's about being so frickin sad about something you just simply can't hold it in any longer and can't wait to get to a private place to cry. I remember years ago my boyfriend at the time and I walked past a girl who was sitting on a bench crying her eyes out. The two of us took about four steps past her, looked at each other and turned around and walked back. We ended up giving her a lift home and simply listened to her problems. By the time we dropped her off she was feeling a lot better about her situation. Which I can't remember what it was now, but she was just glad for the kindness of two strangers.

All you can do is not be that person if you ever see someone else crying. I can handle someone screaming at me that it's none of my business on the off chance that they open up and I can help.

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