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Today, I'm afraid for my mom. For the past year or so, my father and her have been fighting a lot. I know he puts his hands on her. I know he hits her, pushes her, and kicks her. He did the same to me when I was little. She has begged me not to say anything to anyone. I don’t know what to do. MMT

#17068 (12) - Nov 23, 2012 by Anonymous - Sad - Yes, that made me think too! (486) - No, that made me sleepy. (32)


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Listen sweetheart, I've been where you are now and I can't stress how important what I'm going to tell you is. Tell someone and get help. Tell a trusted adult like a family member, friend's parents or teacher. If he does it again, pick up the phone and call the police immediately. I've been where you are now and telling someone was the best choice I ever made. I picked up the phone, called the police and reported him while it was happening. And it wasn't the first time it happened, but it was the first time I plucked up the courage and got help. You need to talk to someone because this can't keep happening. For your safety, and your mother's safety, please pluck up the courage to tell someone and get help. This could be a life or death situation. I hope you're okay, and I wish you the best of luck and safety. I hope I helped you! Stay strong.

I am unsure of where you are located, but if you are in the United States here is the link and phone number to the National Domestic Violence orginization: http://www.thehotline.org/ and the number is: 1-800-799-7233

Before you do anything, have a family diner with them. Talk about what's happening and and agree on things. Tell them how you feel about this and how you want to help. After that night, if your dad still hits your mum, you need to call the police. You either call for help or let it be while your mum gets abused.

Call someone, don't wait, don't worry about what he will think, don't sit down and talk about it with him ~ he will just get violent again. Please call someone as soon as you can.

I've never been in that situation, but I completely agree with everyone here. Get help now. Even if your mom doesn't want you to, I'm sure she'll realize you were right later.

Probably getting a little repetitive at this point, but tell someone. Now. Your mother may not be happy with you right away, but YOU will be happy with yourself because you didn't just sit by and watch it happen. Hardest thing to do in that situation is tell someone. You're strong enough. Do it. Good luck to you!

Please do not let this continue! I would never let anyone hurt the people I love. When you allow this type of behavior, you are saying that it is OK. It is not! Next time call the police, call everyone you think could help. What about grandparents, friends, etc. Do not allow this to go on one more time.

Please tell someone....... I can't tell you just how important it is that you get help; not only for your mom, but yourself as well. You sound like you love your mom more than anything in the world, so you must protect her. The best and safest way to do that is to get help from professionals. Please, many of us have been there, call one of the hotlines, call the police, tell a teacher, tell someone, just don't sit there and let him hurt both of you.

Talk with your mom about making a safety plan. Get all your important documents, i.e. Birth Certificates and Social Security Cards, and financial documents. Put them in a safe place (near the door). She might not be ready to leave today, but when she is she can grab the bag and never look back. You both are stronger than you know. Its never too late to embark on a better life. Good Luck!

Get help when it happens again. It's better to do it before something worse happens feeling guilty and scared is natural but feelings you'll soon realize aren't worth keeping quiet for cuz they're temporary. Once you feel safe again you'll see it. You should both start a new life in a place you like and with the things you love

International Directory of Domestic Violence Agencies: http://www.hotpeachpages.net/ Someone can help you figure out what is safe to do in your situation and what support is appropriate for your age. Don't tell your mother what you're doing until someone else is helping you.

I've been there. I've been there for 22 years. And I was afraid. A lot! I love both my parents, but my father was a violent man, and my mother is a weak person. I know you love them both too, but this is no life to live neither for you mother, nor your father, and especially, not you. I advise you. Tell someone, call the police. It's going to drive you crazy if you don't. Maybe not now, but in time it will damage you severely.

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