Today, at the age of 22, I found out that because of cervical complications I'll never be able to have children. For as long as I can remember, I didn't ever want kids. But now I cry every time I see a diaper commercial because I never knew I wouldn't have a choice. MMT

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A-D-O-P-T-I-O-N. Technically, you can still have kids, and you don't have to worry the side effects of hormonal birth control, the cost of condoms, the permanent health problems from pregnancy, or shitting yourself while giving birth. Not to mention, you're giving a kid a CHANCE at life instead of bringing new life into an overpopulated world.

lichen, chill out. yes, adoption is definitely an option. but the idea of not being able to have your own kids still can be overwhelming, no matter if you previously wanted to or not. OP is obviously going through enough right now & doesn't need people judging her. @ OP : i'm sorry about what happened. but i agree.. if you do decide that you want kids, you can always adopt. they won't be biologically "yours", but that doesn't mean you can't be an awesome mom :) & if not, it'll be okay. you just won't have kids - just like you had never planned on doing :)

I can understand how you feel! I was told 2 years ago at 26 that i will never be able to concieve. Like you I always told myself i would never want kids. soon after being told, many of my friends fell pregnant. I'm going to miss the miracle of carrying a child inside, it hurts when I see my friends but I get to have an influence on many little peoples lives!

My ten year old sister has a problem with her uterus, and will not be able to have kids when she grows up. There is a surgery that would fix it which we can't afford, and the insurance wont cover. I know how much it hurts /me/ that /she/ will never get the choice. I can't imagine how much it would hurt to be the one who doesn't get the choice. Especially when you don't find out until later. :(

I am so sorry.... I am 25 and my husband and I have been trying for years. I know that it is not the same to us right now to think about adoption, but I am so grateful that there are options :) I just keep remembering back to Sunday School when I was a kid... Sara may have been patient, but I can not wait 100+ years Thinking of you girl :)

As a cervical cancer survivor, if you need someone to talk to please email me... punkyprincess33@gmail.com

I'm sorry you feel this way but I can assure you there is a positive side to this. #1 totally has a point AND your life won't be consumed by your children. You do realize ALL of the sacrifices you must make in order to raise a child right, don't you? It's a full-time job. You'd never have time to follow your dreams, do what you want, have free time, sleep, etc., if you had kids. NO DREAMS. Your life is no longer about you it's your kids. You'd also probably gain a bunch of weight which many mothers find it hard to lose afterwards. I am probably biased because (I believe) I'd be *happier* not having a choice, and would feel more at peace in your situation, but who knows. MMT definitely.

My mom was told she would never have children, and somehow got pregnant with me. (no ivf or anything, totally natural) and here i am :) don't give up hope

I hate that doctors phrase it that way. You can still have children. Adoption, foster parenting, surrogacy, step children, lots of options. You have lots of options. If you want children you will have them you just won't give birth to them. And is it just me or is anyone else uncomfortable with boatkicker's story? Her niece is 10! Way too early to think about motherhood. Why put that in her head?

Please adopt. Though I have not experienced what you have, I am sure that it is devastating and painful. But there is always a possibility for children through adoption. My mom wasn't able to have kids so she adopted my sister and I. I was adopted from the moment I was born and I am the luckiest person alive for my mom and dad adopting me. If you adopt, your children will still love you like they would if you had conceived them yourself.

As someone who has recently (within the last two years) learned she will not have children i cannot believe how uncaring some of these comments are. Adoption is great but its a lot of red tape and most of us dont qualify. My parents tried for years, and to be frank my husband and i probably wouldnt qualify because of our living situation, that would actually be amazing for a child. And adoption just isnt right for some people. The thing that makes me mad is most insurance companies dont cover the problems that over 50% of the female population deals with. To the poster, dont ever let people get you down, no one will understand unless they have gone through it themselves, i have learned that the hard way, reach out to the people who support you unconditionally good luck

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