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Today, one of my best friends, Charlie, shot himself in the head at approximately 2PM. And I just noticed that I have a missed call from him on my cell phone with a timestamp of 1:56PM. MMT

#3103 (22) - Dec 18, 2009 by stevey - Sad - Yes, that made me think too! (17625) - No, that made me sleepy. (403)


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Think of the happy times, instead of the what-ifs. Charlie didn't want you to be sad in the end, just for his own sadness to leave him. He wouldn't want you to be sad.

This happened to a friend of mine, she still holds herself responsible over a year later. You have to understand it wasn't your fault and there's nothing you could have done to pull him out of his depression at that moment, as the person above me said, cherish the times you shared.

I could say I am sorry to hear about your friend because i know that sorry does not fix anything and is just a place holder. But i can say this dont think about the shoulda coulda woulda because i am sure that he would not want you to think about that but to think of all the time you have spent together and aall the happy memoires

It's not your fault. There are so many things I could say about this, but the only thing that's important is: it's not your fault.

I am so sorry for you. I have been through this with my grandfather who I was very close to. I still feel the raw pain of this, even after 9 years. For years, I blamed myself for losing him. But I have now learned that people who have their mind set on suicide will do it no matter what. So if anything, please don't blame yourself for this. Just remember all the good times you had together and if you should definitely seek out someone to talk to, it helps a lot.

k this is really weird but something like this happened to me too... my grandma died at 2 am and at like that same exact time i got a phone call from an unknown number i didnt answer and i was a high school student at the time so getting calls at 2 am was very out of the ordinary... it never happened..

One time, I didnt went to a family dinner, when I returned my father left the house. Its not your fault that last moment, it was (my father,charly) decicion. The only thing you can do is remember the good times and forget the bad, but most of all I had to tace care of my mom and sister. You should go check charlys family :)

Guys its not HIS fault he didn't answer the phone, the words 'missed call' normally mean he didn't know he was called until later. Things happen that are unexplainable and we can't hold ourselves responsible for things we had no way of changing.

4 minutes can save a life.

Same thing happened to me... However there were a million calls before then that I did answer, and I was there for her, and I sat for hours listening and counseling. I do not hold myself responsible because at one moment of one day, I did not answer my phone. It was her choice, or Charlie's... I'm just one human being.

I'm sorry, but I doubt you'll come on the computer the day your friend died under those circumstances.

I don't know how late I am to this message, but I just wanted to say, that if he went through with it that quickly, he already knew what he was going to do. There were a million different things going on to make him take his own life. Sure, it might have been nice to say something to him, but at that point, he had already committed, and it would've been worse for you if you did try to talk some sense into him only to find it not work. I'm sorry for your loss, I've known people that were close to taking their own lives. It is natural to feel uncertain about how the events would turn out, but don't let it overwhelm. I wish you the best.

Ah, I feel ya man. I feel like EVERY time my phone is on silent, some shit like that goes down.

@11, Sure 4 minutes can save a life, but not all lives are worth to be saved. I'd rather keep Charlie's seed out of the gene pool (is that right, English is not my native tongue)

When I was 20 y.o., I became a construction manager. A young kid that was 17 y.o. started on our site and we became friends. The boss didn't like him and fired and shamed him publicly one Friday morning before I arrived on the job site. He called me an hour later and the boss screamed at me to get off the phone. I told him I would call him at lunchtime, but 2 minutes later he hung himself. Those of you that have left such disparaging messages really, really make me sick.

Don't blame yourself, he could have called just to simply say goodbye.

its sad you are writing about this today .you really need to be on the internet today?

I am sorry for your loss and the terrible sense of guilt you may have. i had a friend who's name was Charles also and about 18 months ago, he borrowed my only 10 foot free-standing ladder. He took it over to his parents house and hung himself from the rafters in their garage. I did not have a CLUE he would do this type of thing. He was my best friend at the time, and maybe i should have looked harder? I cried for months. But I am a single mom, and can't afford another ladder...but if i say "He's done using it, can I have it back?" It's not because i am being insensitive, I just need my ladder...Still debating it.

I am sorry for your loss and the terrible sense of guilt you may have. i had a friend who's name was Charles also and about 18 months ago, he borrowed my only 10 foot free-standing ladder. He took it over to his parents house and hung himself from the rafters in their garage. I did not have a CLUE he would do this type of thing. He was my best friend at the time, and maybe i should have looked harder? I cried for months. But I am a single mom, and can't afford another ladder...but if i say "He's done using it, can I have it back?" It's not because i am being insensitive, I just need my ladder...Still debating it.

lol, dat nigga dead

hey buddy...vry sory fr ur frnd..bt in ma respct u r in no way responsible fr dis act...i mean c da othr side if u hd pickd da phne nd stil cudnt tke him out of dat untimely depressn u cud hve been far more guilty dan u r nw....remembr jst da times u 2 rockd togethr nd remembr da mised ws jst to say da final goodbye....

Oh my god. I can't believe that. I'm so sorry for your loss, I can understand how you feel. My dad was on the phone with my mom as he hung himself

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