Today, as I walked through the halls alone in my black goth attire, I realized I finally have my peers convinced that I want to be an outsider. But the truth is, I’m lonely and I just don’t know how to fit in with everyone else. MMT

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err....you don't know how to fit in, yet you realize (sic) that the goth attire makes you an outsider.....riiiiiight.

I'm not goth or anything, but I feel like that too. In fact, we have uniforms, so we can't really show our style much. I just don't know how to socialize. Plus relationships with friends and classmates sometimes can be really confusing and I don't know how to act.

Try talking to people.

It sucks... I feel the same way all the time. Except that instead of dressing differently, I go to the library and study when others are hanging out.

I totally know what you're talking about. I dress a little differently and at times all i want to do is listen to my iPod and sit by myself, but it's the times when i don't feel like sitting around doing nothing that hurt.

this may as well have been my mmt

This really MMT. I sometimes know how you feel, fitting in is hard in this cruel world. I only wish people in there young years would look past the clothes or make-up or hair to really see the person becasue you might me plesantly surprised at what you see. Generally those people will be some of the nicest people anyone could ever know.

I would definitely talk to you. I love the goth clothing style! Or steampunk too. Don't worry. In time you will find friends. If not in high school, then definitely at college or work. It happens to a great many people, actually.

If you want to fit in, the easiest was is to be funny. Make jokes and what not. A good one is the "that's what she said" jokes. Good luck. : )

One of my favorite quotes that I've heard (I haven't actually seen the movie yet, but I love this line) is from The Curious Case of Benjamin Button: "For what it's worth: it's never too late to be whoever you want to be. There's no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you live a life you're proud of. If you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again." What I take out of it is that you're in charge of your own destiny basically.. You can change whenever you want, however you want, to become whomever you want to be. I know in high school, at least for me, I felt like everyone had a certain perception of me and that I was sort of stuck, like I couldn't act differently or change anything about myself.. but now looking back I realize that that was pretty silly. We're all our own harshest critics. Just be yourself. Find somebody in one of your classes that seems nice, and reach out a little bit. Start small and work your way up. The more practice you get interacting with people, the better you become at it.

I loved being considered an outsider in high school. It meant I knew who my true friends were, because they didn't judge me by my clothes. I bet you shop at Hot Topic.

WHY WAS MY COMMENT DELETED? Was it because I said I suspected many of these MMT submissions were made up by site administrators? As one of the alternative kids, I can tell you, this was a common accusation when all we aimed for was self-expression.

@ lichen: I agree with you. I have posted many MMT to this site, and none of them have yet to appear. Does make me wonder if the "Send submission" button is just there for fun, and they have their own agenda rather than being a public based submission site.

@lichen and RightKnight: I've had two stories of mine approved. And I've also had a few of my comments deleted. I emailed the admins a few months ago and they said that if multiple users/IPs click 'Report abuse' on a comment, the comment automatically gets deleted.

Try talking to someone..you shouldn't have to change your self to fit in but if it would things a little easier go for it..but dont change your self.

If you want to fit in, lose the goth clothes and go buy what everyone else is buying, listen to the music they listen to, watch the TV shows they watch, and make yourself a copy of them. You'll make friends. If you want to be goth, put on the black clothes and listen to the fake metal they sell at Hot Topic and think you're an individual. Or, you could stop labeling yourself and be genuine and do as you please with your life, then make other friends who are genuine. Worked for all the genuine people I know.

@ZenKey88: So... buying what everyone else is buying is better than buying what you want and being yourself? If Hot Topic is 'fake', then I hate to hear what you think of places like Old Navy and the GAP. You can buy any clothes you want.. it's how you wear them and how you act while wearing them that makes the difference. To the OP: I understand. But things will get better. I promise.

Hey I'll be your friend. I mean it! this made my heart ache and i want to be your friend. -Jenny

that's exactly how i feel right now. that made me cry.

I feel the same way. Everyone's first expression of the quiet ones are that they're people that they always want to be by themselves... And sometimes it's just too hard to change so people don't think that anymore.

this is one of the most heartfelt honest MMT'S i have ever read. i hope you can break through your innately shy shell and share your personality with the world

You don't have to "fit in". It's just a term designed by different societies accordingly to their rules of the so called "fitting". It's like normality. There's no such thing. It all boils down to perception and agreements . If you're not happy with who you are, you should take steps into improving(mind you, not changing)yourself. If the rest of the world is not happy with who you are, then it's better to be alone. Right now, your loneliness is not because of you, it's just because you haven't found the right people to accept and love you for what you are. The key is to never give up. You don't have to search, you just have to wait. Remember, there's always someone for everyone(especially in the "friends" department).Stand your ground and never trade who you are just for the sake of norms and conformations. And yes, I know it's a rather late response, but i still hope it helps.

I just found this site, and as soon as I saw this I had to make an account. I totally know how you feel,op, and at times it totally sucks. The only difference for me is, people aren't convinced that I want to be an outsider because I'm basically your typical high school student. I dress like them, shop with them; look at my iPod and you'll see basically everyone in my school's playlist. Like horsefeathers said, though, you do find out who your real friends are by the fact you are an individual. Recently I just dropped a lot of my friends because they didn't like who I 'became'-myself. That forced me to be a total loner or learn how to make friends. I made a whole new group of friends who are still your typical high school students, but they're not afraid to let their individual selves show. I hope things get better for you and remember, sometimes the key to making true friends is not to fit in.

its better to b different! :) its better to b unique and different then to b the same as every1 else! ill b ur bud sunshine! :)

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